i think we found the opposite of nash greir
I appreciate what this gif set is trying to say, but the reality is, most women delude themselves that they’re actually losing weight for themselves. Same with the whole collection of anti-feminist choices they make. It is because they don’t make choices in a vacuum. They make choices that are constrained by society. We are part of society. Society has a norming effect. Society punishes or rewards based on conformism.
It takes a much stronger mind and an even stronger will to resist and constantly resist. Because people you like and even people you love will start to exert pressure on you for not conforming, and then, the pressure to lose weight, or get plastic surgery, or act stupid in front of a man, or change your name if you get married, will all be thrown at you. You’ll feel the weight of the opprobrium if you do not conform.
Then you see shittyass people with no redeeming character traits conform by mincing around in crippling shoes, drinking only diet Coke, and getting plastic flotation devices welded to their chest, and then you see these same people get rewarded bigtime with money, adoration, friends, TV series, power, more money, etc., believe me, it will cross your mind. And when you see good, kind people get treated like inferiors merely for not conforming, it will cross your mind.
And no, intelligence doesn’t really help. The smarter the person, the better at self-deception and the more reasonable-seeming the rationalizations will be. What it takes is a cussed stubbornness — a persistent refusal to pretend to be something you’re not. And it takes a critical mass of cussed, stubborn people. Only then do we break the power of the “norm.”